Dancing in the Flames: The Dark Goddess in the Transformation of Consciousness by Marion Woodman & Elinor Dickson

I think this quote says it all:

"In our yearning to be perfect, we have mistaken perfection for wholeness. We think we cannot love ourselves until we and others meet some external standard… It is in that place of survival … that spirit longs to be embodied so that the whole body may become light.”

- MARION WOODMAN